I just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a Happy New Year! Many of us see this time a new beginning, a start of something big, the “new year new me posts” and for others it’s a reminder that yet again we didn’t accomplish our goals after a whole year.
When setting New Year resolutions I recommend setting small goals. If you want to lose 20lbs, that’s great! But, 20lbs can be an intimidating amount, it may be best to say you want to love 1.5lbs per month! If you want to write a book, plan on writing 1 chapter a week, 3 weeks per month, giving yourself some time off each month because you know writers block will hit you, etc. If you want to achieve something, the first step is to reflect within, know your own potential and under what circumstances you work best and set goals that you can realistically accomplish. Every unattainable goal in your mind can broken down into smaller steps that can be easily attained. It’s not always about the bigger picture, sometimes focusing on the tiny details can help you take on the bigger picture without facing it head on.
That being said, I’m a huge fan of taking on the impossible but it only works when you know that what you’re doing is impossible. And have the patience with yourself to take the time that you need to do so! Far too often we get frustrated and give up on our goals because we are not realistic about the time and effort required before it pays off. Imagine planting an apple tree and taking care of it everyday for 5 years. Then one day you get tired of putting in all this effort and getting no fruits in return so you cut it down. Then a year later you find out that apple trees bear fruit after 6-10 years. You were so close but you gave up because you didn’t take the time to understand what a long term commitment your dreams are. I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve given up on too many dreams prematurely. So this year I’m reevaluating a few of those dreams to see if I want to have a second go at them.
If you don’t have any new year resolutions that’s perfectly okay. You’ve been working on making yourself a better person for so many years, it’s okay to say that you’ve done a good job and take a year to enjoy the person you’ve become rather than constantly fighting what you are to try and to become this “better person” that society has convinced us we must constantly strive towards.
The past 13 years of my life has been such an odyssey that this year I’m appreciating who I’ve become. The last few years, I’ve grown so much, and becoming a wife and mother has dramatically changed my perspective on life. I am taking the time to bridge the gap between what I thought I would be and what I am, and making sure that the road I’m heading down will truly make me happy before I thread further.
Whatever your plans are for 2019, we will do it together!
Looking forward to see you all accomplish your dreams this year, please tag me on your progress posts, etc so I can see all your successes this year!
I love seeing when you all are winning at life.