Why do we still need Feminism?

Posted on by aviyr

Hi Luvs,

Mia 3Today is International Women’s Day, a day when we celebrate the movement for women’s Rights. As expected I woke up to a very polar home page on social media. I woke up to a bunch of motivational posts, campaigns where brands are committing money to women literacy or other causes that help women, #bossbabe post, etc; and then there were the sexist jokes. Which was quite off putting since most people in my circle are not sexist but they are trying to be funny. Well, quite frankly it’s not.

mia 1I can appreciate the humor in a joke, I’m not so uptight that I can’t take a joke. The problem is that many people don’t see it as a joke. If everyone took these to be jokes we wouldn’t have gender inequality today. If you, an educated individual without sexist inclinations cannot pass up the opportunity to make sexists jokes on a day that celebrates  strides made throughout history to overcome sexism and bridge the gap of gender inequality, that should be a beacon to shine light on the struggle women face daily.

Things I heard in the past 20 years

-“That’s not for girls,”
-“Girls can’t do that”
-“That’s not the way a girl behaves”
-“Girls don’t talk like that”
-“You’re too smart for your own good”
-“You think you’re smart I hope your husband beats you when you grow up”
-“You’re too smart for men”
-“You don’t need to be smart, you just need to learn to cook”
-“You’re pretty, you don’t need to be smart”
-“You can do my laundry for extra credit”
-“Can you stop being so smart, you don’t need to know everything”
-“Women can’t be leaders, they’re just designed to do different things, it’s not in our DNA”
-“Women leaders can never be successful”
-“She probably gives good blowjobs to get that promotions, because she’s incompetent”
-“Oh, you’re having a girl, you’ll need a shot gun”
-“Girls don’t count, all that matters is when you have a son”
-“Oh, your pregnant what a waste of a degree”
-“You’re throwing you’re whole future away by getting married”

mia 2And I’ll stop there because I have better things to do with my life than sit down and list every ignorant sexist thing ever said to me. Plus I wouldn’t finish this blog post before the end of the day. What was most striking about these is that they were not from strangers, these were said to me by family members, former friends, and teachers in the classroom in front of my peers (both in Trinidad and America). Now I’m not saying everyone I know is sexist, I obviously was surrounded by more positive reinforcement than negative, but most women aren’t. Even in America, even in the 21st century, even in college, even at the biggest offices, even in women run businesses. This is something we should remember everyday. You may be the only positive reinforcement for a woman. YOU may be the only one that doesn’t make sandwich jokes, YOU may be the only one that does not tell her to do your laundry, YOU may be the only one that tells her she can do it, YOU may be the only one that does not call her dreams and ambitions crazy, YOU may be the only reason that she thinks she can do it. So take that moment in your day to write that post/message telling her that, she’s already heard all the sexist jokes.

mia 4Today Feminists are often viewed as angry man haters. For this reason I was uncertain if I identified myself as a feminist for a long time. Truth is, bitter man hater is not the definition of feminism. I am Feminist because I am going to make my dreams come through and I will not be deprived of it because of  my gender, because when I do it, I don’t want to hear rumors that I slept my way to the top, because it’s not okay for anyone to tell me how my daughter or son should dress, or what type of toys they can have because of their gender, because I want my son to know that women also contribute tremendously to the success of the society we have and I want my daughter to know that what she decided to do with her life is an important decision.

cropped-img_0220.jpgFeminism is about equality. Thank you to the men that support us, that love us, that appreciate us, that don’t make the sexist jokes. Thank you to the women who stood up and changed history for us, the women that were the first to do everything that we enjoy today, the women who are killing it men dominated fields, to the women that are working their butts of to make a difference.

And to the women reading this, you are beautiful, strong, inspiring, and Need. You make the world a better place with your grace, with your kindness, with your ambition and strength. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you are not good enough, that you don’t contribute enough, that you are worthless.

When you know your worth no one can devalue you.

Keep Slaying,
XOXO
Avi

 

 

99 thoughts on “Why do we still need Feminism?”

  2. This is true 👍
    In India many Muslim husband’s NEVER allow their women to go and work . They are supposed to only look after their husbands and family . I hate all this REALLY .. THose jokes just hurt me more . Hope they change .. there is no difference between a girl and boy . Iam blessed to have two Daughters . I believe they will be the women of wisdom in future .

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  7. That is so beautifully written and I’d like to thank you for this! I have two sons & they were brought up watching their Mum succeed, determined to prove others wrong & do any job in the home that a man can do. They have so much respect for me & for women in general bc they know that we are just as good as men if not at times even better!
    I know your daughter will grow up to be just as strong & successful as you are & will prove to others that you can achieve anything you put your mind to! Thank you again for this,
    Happy International Women’s Day to you too sweetie 👏🏻😚💕💖💕

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    1. You go girl! I’m proud of you for raising your sons to know better. That is the biggest step we can take in the fight for equality, teach our sons better. Thank you

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  12. Wow, I’m shocked and saddened that these horrible things were said to you. I know a lot of females have heard one or more of those things. It just shows you, how strong of a person you are. Thank you for spreading awareness to these very important women issues. 💖

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  14. Thank you 😊.
    This was so pretty blog.
    In long long time ago women been underestimate and they thinking we are to weak . Now start we stand also not to sow man that we are better but sow that we can do also what they can , we are not just a woman we are strong 💪🏽 intelligent 🤓 responsible we have many abilities.. without women world 🌎 is nothing…
    😊

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  17. You are such a huge inspiration to me. Always look forward to watching your videos and always love when you post on socisl media. So out going and just so damn awesome. 😗😗😗😗

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  20. YESS 😭😭♥️ A thousand times I scream yes ! If only more people could understand this. We all deserve to be treated equal.

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  21. These are horrible things that have been said to you. Unfortunately, so many women hear the things and worse. Thank you for writing this and bringing awareness and uplifting. You are a beautiful and strong woman 💖

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  23. Wow !! You are a true inspiration to women around the world!! When I read about the things that were said to you, I because furious. But the fact that you overcame all of that negativity says so much about you !! Thank you for this post 💕💕 you are a strong, beautiful woman with a beautiful daughter 💕💕

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  25. So beautifully written… I never expected you would have heard such things in life. I am very proud of you as a woman , that you had few pessimistic people around… Still you have outgrown and shining like a star now.. 💖💖

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  26. I’ve been told my whole life that I can’t do this or that especially from my parents just cause I was a girl. But I went out and did them anyway. Thank you so much for this blog. I really needed to hear it this time in my life.

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  27. Wow!!! This has got to be one of the most powerful blogs I have ever read!!! Thank you for standing up for us women ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

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  28. Wow… This is so deep dear . Reading what you had heard in life, for a moment there I am reading about what I heard often in my life. You are an inspiration 💕😘 this makes me feel happy that I am following an amazing woman in all social handles possible 😊

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  29. Wowww u have a great thinking and osome thoughts keep up really love ua articlesss… Love u loadsss … Zoyaaakhaannn hea

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  32. This is a really beautifully written piece. It is sad some of the things that are said, even in “jokes”….my mom says, “sometimes, the truth hides behind jest”.

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  34. I really like this post. It is a shame the way that people are sexist . I had a guy I worked with that was just like everything you said. You couldn’t ha e put this any better. Thank you for sharing. Sending hugs from Tennessee ❤ ✨ ❤ ✨ ALWAYS

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  35. I truly love this post and completely agree! I’m currently taking a sociology course, and we often talk about how sexism still prevails in today’s world. It’s sad and needs to be stopped. Both mean and women need to work to change the mindset.

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  38. Couldnt agree more. I also often heard that kind of words. ‘No need to study hard, the place you will ended up is the kitchen’. I love the equality. Women and men both need to respect each other. Enjoy reading your writing 💗

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  40. So true! I’ve also heard many things in life, I want to be a makeup artist but everyone says me to learn how to cook and how to take care of kids, but my mom and dad supported me and will help me with my course 💕 thankyou for this amazing post! Loved reading it

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  41. Hi Ms. Aviyr. I am Laarni, from the Philippines. You can call me Arni for short 💖😍 . I am your fan/follower on instagram for quite sometime now and I must admit that you are one of the few beauty bloggers I adore most. You are so humble to the point that you liked some of my posts and I am very grateful for that. BY the way, I am a single mom to two beautiful girls (they are actually TWINS 😇) The Lord blessed me with these masterpieces and I am forever grateful and blessed for that. My passions are making drawings and makeups. I am a frustrated makeup artist and I wish to be developed and improved to be the best makeup artist I can be. Since I am a single mom, I know I have to prioritize the needs of my kids. I tried joining giveaways local or international, so if ever luck and blessing of God knocks on me, I may be able to have some makeups I dreamed of having,just like with other professional makeup artists I know. 💕💖😄

    Thank you so much for being one of the hopes for me. God bless your kindest heart and thank you for sharing your blessings to us. I will continuously support you.

    Lots of love from the Philippines here,
    Mommy LAARNI 💕💕💕😇😇😇

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    1. P.S. Thank k you so much dear for the good read. I.hope to read more and more your blogs in the future. And hope to have the courage to do writings/blogs too. Mwah!!! God bless 😇😇😇

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  42. I just had to come back and read this again it was such a powerful message I really did enjoy it so much I read it again!! I’m following you everywhere I really do appreciate you a lot I’ve been following for a while you are definitely my go to beauty advisor !!!

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  50. It’s really beautiful to read it Ma’am, and finally I’ve installed the WordPress and firstly searched and followed you!💛❤ IG(istryart) MUCHLOVE!

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